The best weddings are made up of small, unforgettable, candid moments. The moment you walk down the aisle, the moment of your first dance, the moment you cut the cake together – they are all meant to sprinkle this day with love and affection.
Of all the moments of a wedding, your vows are the very foundation of everything that’s going on – they are the brick and mortar of your future marriage.
What are some of the most important tips for having the perfect wedding vows? We have gathered them right below – so read on and find out more.
You don’t have to create your own wedding vows yourself. If you are having a religious wedding in certain denominations, you might find you’re not even allowed to do this. But even if you are allowed, it doesn’t mean you have to do it if you don’t feel comfortable with the idea! Take the decision that suits you, not the decision that suits society, tradition, or what others expect you to do!
If you plan on writing your own wedding vows, be sure you do take your time with it. This is not the kind of thing you want to do the night before the wedding. Take your time, write and rewrite, edit, add, delete and practice them – do everything you can to make sure they are perfect!
If you find yourself sitting in front of a blank sheet of paper, simply start writing. Freewriting is one of the most popular techniques writers use to fight “blocks”. Simply write. Think of your loved one and your relationship and write down your thoughts. You can edit and delete later – but for now, allow yourself to be embraced by the power of freewriting!
Jokes are wonderful. However, do make sure they are not embarrassing in any kind of way. Some things should probably stay between the two of you. Also, don’t make your vows about jokes upon jokes – make them about you and who you are. Be sincere and candid and share your love for each other. That is the very essence of a good wedding vow!
Again, don’t do something just because someone else expects you to do it! Feel free to have whatever kind of wedding vows you want – and if you feel that speaking so emotionally in front of an audience might scare you, don’t be afraid to break tradition and share your wedding vows in private (and simply follow the standard vows for the actual ceremony).
